You know exactly what you want to do.
You can't seem to do it.
This is not a willpower problem.
Unblend is a free 10-minute guided audio practice. The one IFS skill that brings you back to yourSelf when a protective part takes over.
You have the credentials, the track record, the respect of the people around you. Letters after your name. A CV that runs long. A reputation you've earned.
You are one of the most intentional people you know. In so many areas of your life, you show up exactly as you mean to.
And then there are the other moments…
The pitch you didn't send.
The boundary you didn't hold.
The ask you softened at the last second because some part of you whispered too much.
The conversation you've been postponing for three weeks.
The visibility opportunity you watched pass while you "thought about it."
Snapping at your kid and knowing, before the words even landed, that wasn't you.
The morning routine you keep abandoning ( even though you know exactly, precisely, how good you feel when you don't)
Different moments. Same pattern. Something takes over.
And afterwards, every time, the same quiet question: why did I do it again?
You are so intentional about so many things. Which is exactly what makes this so hard to forgive.
What you want is to feel like yourself when it matters most. Clear. Grounded. Courageous. Like the version of you that shows up on your best days… available to you on your hardest ones.
What you want is to trust yourself in the moment. Not just in hindsight. Not just when you're calm and regulated and have had eight hours of sleep.
What you want is a practice. Something you can reach for when a part takes over and you need to find your way back to yourSelf before the moment passes.
Listen. If we could think our way through these moments we would have figured this out a long time ago. I am so good at knowing what I do and why I do it, I could write a very boring autobiography. And still it doesn't work.
I have come to experience what does….
This isn't just “self-sabotage”. It's a protective part of you.
A younger, scared, very well-intentioned part that learned to protect you long before you needed protecting from this.
And she's still doing her job. Even now. Even when the thing arriving is the thing you put on your vision board. The thing you wished for. Waited for. Daydreamed about on ordinary Tuesday mornings when you knew, somewhere deep, that you were made for more than this.
She can't see that yet. She only knows how to keep you safe.
I know you have tried to push her out. Silence her. Override her with positive thinking or sheer willpower. I tried it too. It doesn't work.
Here's what does: you Unblend.
Unblending is when you give these parts room and Self energy can return. Your truest Self emerges. With clarity. With confidence. With courage. She takes her rightful place in your system, seen, thanked, no longer in charge, so that yourSelf can lead.
Unblending is an IFS practice that gives you space from the part that's taking over, so you can reconnect with Self and choose how you actually want to respond.
Unblend is a free 10-minute audio practice that brings you back to the Self that has the capacity to meet this moment.
Inside you'll get:
A 10-minute guided Unblend audio practice to use in the moment
A simple companion PDF to help you return to the practice when you need it
This is how you become the woman who knows what to do and does it.
This is for you if:
You are done reacting from a version of yourself you've already outgrown.
You are finished being at the whim of parts that are scared. (You understand why they're there. You're just ready to stop letting them drive.)
You want to feel like yourself in the hard moments, not just the easy ones.
You want the clarity and confidence you have on your best days to be available to you on your worst.
You know what to do. You are ready to actually do it.
You are ready for a practice that works at the level the problem actually lives. Not another reframe. Not another mindset tool. Not more self-awareness you don't know what to do with.
You have some familiarity with IFS, parts work, or the idea that more than one thing can be true inside you at once. (Or you're just IFS-curious and ready to find out what all the fuss is about.)
I'm Andrea Tessier!
IFS practitioner, High Capacity Coach, and what some of my clients call their secret weapon.
I work with women like you. Accomplished, self-aware, done with the old way of doing things and still bumping up against the parts that haven't gotten the memo yet.
I created Unblend because my clients kept asking for it. Give me something I can use in the moment, they said. Something for when I feel triggered. Something to de-escalate when a part takes over. When I need clarity fast. When I know what I should do and some part of me won't let me do it. When I'm blended with a part and I have to walk into my next meeting in ten minutes and I need to come back to mySelf.
This is that practice..
